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October is National Bully Prevention Month

Students, did you know that October is National Bullying Prevention month? At Jersey we all share a responsibility in working together to ensure that all students feel welcome and safe. So for the month of October every week we will have a theme that we will announce. It is important that we all build awareness and practice respect towards others.

 

Week 1: Make friends with someone you don’t know at school.

 

Week 2: Practice positivity (Saying kind words) Sentence starters:

  1. Thank you for…
  2. I appreciate that…
  3. It makes me feel great when….

Week 3: Be an up-stander not a by-stander

  1. I will lend a helping hand by…

Week 4: (Cool to be kind!) Apologize /reconnect with someone you hurt.

Jersey Avenue Elementary School Anti Bully Policy

Our school’s social vision

At Jersey Avenue Elementary School believe that every student should feel accepted for who they are and able to enjoy their time at our school free from bullying and harassment.

 

Purpose of this policy

Bullying and harassment stand in the way of our social vision. This policy prohibits harassment and bullying at Jersey Elementary School during the school and after-school program, at school field trips, school sponsored events, and when students are traveling to and from school.  It describes our school’s procedures to prevent and stop bullying and prohibits reprisal or retaliation against any person who reports bullying.  This policy applies to all students, teachers, staff, specialists, and anyone who works on our campus, whether employed by the school or district, working as contractors, or volunteers. 

 

Definitions

Bullying is different from conflict.  It occurs when a student, or group of students, repeatedly try to hurt, humiliate or get power over another less powerful student in any of the following ways.

 

  • Physical bullying is when a student uses physical force to hurt another student e.g. by hitting, pushing, shoving, kicking, taking a student’s belongings or stealing their money.

 

  • Verbal bullying is when a student uses words, images or gestures to intimidate or humiliate another student e.g. by taunting, name-calling, teasing, put-downs, insults, threats and blackmail.

 

  • Relational bullying is when a student excludes or isolates another student e.g. through leaving them out, manipulating others against them, or spreading gossip or rumors.

 

  • Cyberbullying is when a student uses their cell-phone, text messages, e-mails, instant messaging, chats and websites (such as Facebook, Twitter, You Tube or Instagram) to bully another student in any of the ways described above.

 

Bullying may at times amount to harassment.  It is harassment to target a student online or face to face because of their actual or perceived disability, gender, gender identity, gender expression, nationality, race or ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, or because they are associating with a student or group of students with one or more of these actual or perceived characteristics. 

 

It is sexual harassment to target a student with unwanted sexual comments, gestures, attention, stalking and physical contact that cause a student to feel uncomfortable or unsafe at school, or interferes with schoolwork.  This is dealt with further in the school’s sexual harassment policy.

 

Our school does not tolerate bullying or harassment for any reason.  You are breaking the law if you harass anyone at our school.  It is a serious breach of the school rules if a student takes revenge or asks someone to threaten or hurt a student that has reported bullying or harassment. 

 

How students can end bullying

Bullying and harassment cause pain and stress to students and are never justified or excusable as “just teasing” or “just playing.”  When a student stands by doing nothing, or laughs or posts comments online when others bully, they are participating in bullying.

 

The students at Jersey have agreed to join together to treat others with respect both online and face-to-face so that we keep our campus bully-free. 

 

All students agree to:

  • Value student differences and treat others with respect both online and face-to-face.
  • Use Stop, Walk or Talk when I or others around me are the target of bullying

 

  • If I cannot safely stop the bullying, to walk away and seek help from any teacher or trusted adult on campus.

 

  • Never take revenge or ask someone to hurt a student that has reported bullying.

 

Our school takes a problem-solving approach to bullying.  We have staff members trained as Solution Coaches to bring together a Solution Team of students and ask them to end bullying situations.  Most Solution Teams successfully end bullying situations after one or two meetings without using punishment.

 

Staff, Teacher and Parent Response to Student Harassment and Bullying

Our school follows a four-level system for preventing and responding to bullying and harassment

 

Level 1 – Prevent & Interrupt

  • All teachers, staff, students and volunteers support a campus-wide system for preventing and stopping harassment and bullying.
  • If any teacher or staff member witnesses an act of harassment or bullying, he or she shall take immediate steps to intervene and redirect students provided it is safe to do so.
  • If a parent or guardian knows or suspects that their child is being harassed or bullied, encourage your student to use the stop, walk or talk method or to seek help from any trusted adult on campus.  If this does not solve the situation, inform your student’s classroom teacher.  The school can only help you if you trust us with the problem and tell us what is happening. 

 

Level 2 – Check in with target of bullying and notify a Solution Coach or the Principal

  • All members of school staff are encouraged to watch out for students who appear to be isolated from other students, who are put down by other students behind their back, or who show signs of being bullied.
  • If any staff member knows or suspects that a student is the target of ongoing bullying or harassment (i.e. it has happened more than once and is likely to continue), he or she shall check in with the student as soon as reasonably possible.  If this appears to be ongoing bullying or harassment, he or she shall complete a Solution Team Referral Form and provide it to the Lead Solution Coach

Level 3 – Solution Team, Progressive Discipline and other responses

Our school uses a variety of methods to prevent and end harassment and bullying.  We may use Solution Teams®, progressive discipline with increased consequences if behavior continues, and suspension or expulsion.

  • If a Solution Team is appropriate, a Solution Coach will meet with target of bullying and offer to convene a Solution Team to bring the bullying to an end. The Solution Team is a team of 6-8 students that includes the bullying students, bystanders, and students who are positive role models. The Solution Coach records progress using a Solution Team Log and shall report progress to the principal.
  • If progressive discipline, suspension, or expulsion is appropriate, the principal will meet with the bullying student, and involve their parents and teachers when determining consequences.
  • In all cases of bullying, the principal will document and retain all the information of the incidents of bullying.

 

Level 4 – Implement an Empathy-Building Action Plan

If a pattern of harassment or prejudice is apparent across an entire class or grade, the Solution Coach and other relevant school staff implement a plan to teach respect for differences and create a supportive peer culture.

STOP ~ WALK ~ TALK

All students will be trained to use the STOP ~ WALK ~ TALK method at Jersey Avenue Elementary School.  What this means is that if a student is disturbing them in any way, they should tell that student respectfully to STOP.  If the undesired behavior continues, they should WALK away.  If the person pursues them, they should TALK to an adult.  By using these three steps, students will take control of their social interactions with their peers.     

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Ten Ways to Bully-Proof Your Child

Ten Ways to Bully-Proof Your Child

No Bully is a San Francisco based 501(c)(3) non-profit.  It recommends these ten steps for parents to bully-proof their child:

1)    Friends are the best protection against bullying and are also the best predictor of your child’s lifetime success. Ask your children who their friends are and what they do at recess.  If you are concerned that your child is isolated, raise this concern with your child’s teacher.

2)    Promote your child’s social life.  Get involved in your child’s school.  Make friends with other parents.  Arrange frequent play dates for your child with a range of different kids. 

3)    Have conversations with your children throughout their childhood about differences. Teach them to respect and value those who are different from them.

4)    Be mindful how you talk about others in front of your children.  If you gossip or put down others, you are teaching your children to do the same.

5)    A peaceful, respectful environment at home means we have less bullying at school. Don’t allow your children to intimidate or bully each other. Be a role model for intervention.

6)    Teach your children what happens when friendships go wrong. Tell them that feelings of anger, sadness, jealousy and confusion are normal. Explain that –whatever they might be feeling – bullying, retaliation and revenge are never acceptable responses.

7)    Limit your child’s exposure to violence in music, movies, games and media and limit your child’s Internet access to computers in the shared areas of your house. 

8)    Have a conversation with your child about social networking sites and the effect of posting false words, rumors and hurtful images.  If your child wants to join a social networking site, reach an agreement that gives you access, and ask that they restrict access to friends only.

9)    Don’t expect your children to tell you that they are being harassed or bullied.  Watch for indirect signs that your things are not going well for your child: stomach aches, headaches, irritability, depression, social withdrawal, sudden change in behavior, reluctance to go to school and, in the case of physical bullying, unexplained cuts and bruises.

10) Solution Coach® your child how to deal with bullying and other life challenges. Parents that build strong relationships with their kids often use a coaching approach to parenting. A Solution Coach parent is able to remain centered while using both their hands to coach their child. The left hand is the receptive hand of empathy that reaches out from the heart. It takes the time to notice how your child is feeling and suggest to them (tentatively) that you get it e.g. “I could imagine that you’re feeling… Is that what is going on for you?” The right hand encourages action.  It names the problem, sets limits and facilitates solutions.  A Solution Coach parent usually starts with the left hand and only moves to the right after establishing a connection with their child.  Then she or he goes back and forth between the two hands. 

 Diez formas de proteger a sus niños contra la intimidación

1)    Los amigos son la mejor protección contra la intimidación en las escuelas y también son la mejor predicción del éxito en la vida de su hijo. Pregunte a sus niños quiénes son sus amigos y lo que hacen a la hora del recreo. Si se preocupa que su hijo esté aislado, mencione esta preocupación a su maestro.

2)    Promueva la vida social de sus niños. Involúcrese en la escuela de su niño. Haga amistades con otros padres de familia. Organice días de juego para sus niños frecuentemente con una variedad de diferentes niños.

3)    Tenga conversaciones con sus niños durante su niñez sobre las diferencias de las personas.  Enséñeles a respetar y valorar a aquellos que son diferentes.

4)    Tenga en cuenta como habla de otros en frente de sus hijos. Si comenta chismes o hace menos a otros, está enseñando a sus hijos a hacer lo mismo.

5)    Un ambiente tranquilo, respetuoso en casa significa que hay menos intimidación en la escuela. No les permita a sus niños intimidar o acosar a los demás. Sea un modelo de intervención.

6)    Enseñe a sus niños lo que sucede cuando las amistades van mal. Explíqueles que los sentimientos de enojo, tristeza, celos y confusión son normales. Explíqueles que –cualquier cosa que estén sintiendo- intimidación, represalias y venganza son respuestas no aceptables.

7)    Limite el tiempo que sus niños están expuestos a la violencia en música, películas, juegos y otros medios y limite también su acceso a la red de Internet en las computadoras en las áreas comunes de su hogar. 

8)    Converse con sus niños sobre las redes de intercambios sociales en el internet y las consecuencias de publicar palabras falsas, rumores e imagines dañinas. Si sus niños quieren ser parte de un grupo social en el internet, lleguen a un acuerdo en el cual usted pueda tener acceso a la cuenta de sus niños, y pídale que limite el acceso a su perfil solo para sus amigo.

9)    No espere que sus niños le digan que están siendo intimidados o acosados. Este atento a signos indirectos de que las cosas no van bien con su niño: Dolores de estómago, cabeza, irritabilidad, depresión, aislamiento social, cambio repentino en su conducta, renuencia para ir a la escuela y, en el caso de acoso físico, moretones y cortadas inexplicables.

10) La solución enseñe a su hijo cómo hacer frente a la intimidación y otros desafíos que presenta la vida. Los padres que tienen una buena  relación con sus hijos los aconsejan mucho y permanecen centrados al usar sus dos manos al entrenarlos.  La mano izquierda es la mano receptiva a la compasión y sale del corazón.  La mano derecha le da vuelta al problema en una forma en donde su hijo tiene el poder.  Si su hijo ha roto una regla o ha hecho algo inseguro recuérdele cuales son sus límites. Piensen en que otra forma su hijo debe actuar si se le presenta esta situación nuevamente en el futuro.  En una forma privada piense si su hijo no ha desarrollado la habilidad que necesita para afrontar estas situaciones y ayúdelo a aprender esa habilidad

 

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